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Rant Alert: I gotta get this off my chest…

By Marcus Santer

The Sunday Quote:

“There are 10 types of people in this world.
Those who understand binary and those who don’t.”
Spotted on a T-shirt

I’ve been helping Clarabella get extra driving experience in between her lessons.

If there’s one thing I know about learning new skills it’s this: Do deliberate practice as often as possible.

So each day we go down to the Dawlish Warren car park and Clarabella practices.

Pulling away and stopping is the current focus.

Now there’s something you should know about where I live. It’s a popular holiday destination in the UK. From now until the end of the 6-week school holidays in September it’s going to get busier and busier.

Yesterday, with it being a Bank Holiday weekend and the sun shining, Dawlish Warren was particularly busy.

And to get to the car park you have to go under the railway line. The tunnel is tiny. It’s barely wide enough for a small car and a single file narrow footpath.

In 2003 there was a big fire in one of the shops near the beach. But the fire engines were unable to get under the bridge. And by the time they could get to the fire, a huge amount of damage had been done.

Enough to say it’s very narrow.

Now, Clarabella had had a really good practice.

She’s watched a Youtube video about setting the accelerator before lifting the clutch and it really made sense to her. And she was able to do 10 stop – starts without stalling once. For the first time. She was rightly feeling pretty chuffed with herself.

She was still riding high, but now in the passenger seat, as I waited for the traffic lights to change so we could enter the tunnel to get back to the main road.

The narrow footpath was crammed with holiday makers and I moved slowly forward into the tunnel.

I was about half way through when an oaf, speaking on his phone and pushing his young daughter with his other hand, stepped off the pavement and into the road.

What happened next got me a little miffed.

He slammed his hand down onto the bonnet of my car and snarled:

“What’s your problem? Can’t you see I’ve got a little kid here?”

I was speechless.

Fortunately Clarabella’s a lot sharper and faster than me and said:

“Stay on the pavement then!”

He moved out of the way and I drove slowly on.

I see far too much of this kind of attitude. It’s almost like there’s an epidemic of it sweeping across the globe.

Let me explain…

My default setting is to apologise and to take responsibility for my actions.

But more and more I witness people taking completely the opposite approach. Anything that happens is automatically somebody else’s fault. Like the oaf under the bridge. My car being in too close proximity had nothing to do with him being impatient about the slow moving people on the pavement.

It had nothing to do with him speaking on the phone and not being aware of my car.

Oh no.

Automatically I was at blame, it couldn’t possibly be his fault.

I’ll wager nothing is ever his fault.

And I come across this attitude a lot, online and in the real world and I think it stinks.

I believe there are two types of people in this world, those who are response-able and those who aren’t.

Are you response-able?

If you’re still reading this I’d say you are.

And you’re the kind of person I’d like to invite to the first ever ZEN+ Workshop.

You can find full details here:

Your invitation to join me at Church Farm

Bye for now

Marcus

P.S. I learned a valuable lesson yesterday.

If you’re actively engaged in learning something, then Youtube videos can be a helpful supplement to your learning.

Good that.