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The scariest night of my life…

By Marcus Santer

It’s exactly 13 years since the scariest night of my life.

Much scarier by far than…

  1. Leaving all my friends behind and starting at a new school
  2. Being on the edge of Dartmoor, in a tent at midnight. Just up from one of it’s most haunted landmarks and hearing sounds of movement outside.
  3. Being caught in a strong current whilst swimming off the coast of Ibiza and wondering if I was ever going to make it back to shore.
  4. Staring into the eyes of a street fighter about to deliver a head-butt into my face.
  5. Being mistaken for someone else by a biker in a murderous mood
  6. Sleeping with scalpel blades pointing up from the floor boards to protect myself in the night
  7. Being blinded by a powerful torch wielded by a pair of security guards and their growling, snapping guard dog
  8. Looking down the wrong side of a water cannon
  9. Being shot at whilst travelling on a Greyhound bus
  10. The smell of my burning flesh during my vasectomy
  11. Being molested on the back of scooter whilst travelling through the jungle of Sumatra

I could go on.

But what happened 13 years ago was scarier than all of them put together.

It was the night my son was born.

Long story short, it was complicated.

And ended up with Clarabella having an emergency C-section at 06:56.

They cut her open as I sat down next to her.

Which means I can hand on heart say she’s as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside.

Even longer story short – 8 months later whilst talking with the doctor reviewing Ollie’s brain scan – we were told: “Your son has cerebral palsy”

Actually that might qualify as even scarier than his birth.

Because we had no idea what it meant and no idea what it meant for the future.

Sometime later whilst I was wrestling with thoughts along the lines of:

“We did this happen to us?”

Another expert told us:

“You do know your son is lucky to be alive? This amount of scaring to his brain could’ve killed him.”

Now that dear reader is what NLP folk call: A Re-Frame.

Instead of being victim focused on thoughts like: “Why did this happen to us?”

That expert’s comment shifted my experience from one of feeling like a victim to one of relief that my son was alive.

Powerful, powerful stuff.

And shortly afterwards I remember making a pact with myself that:

As long as Ollie knew he was loved

I would cope with everything else.

Okay, I’ll be honest with you.

Because I selfishly added this:

And I know Ollie loves me.

If those two conditions could be met as we moved forwards, then everything else would just be cherries on top of the cake.

13 years on from the scariest night of my life I can say I’ve got what I wished for.

A wonderful son who knows that he is loved and who loves me back.

For this I am truly grateful.

And you know what?

Out of all the mindset tools in ZEN+ if I had to choose 1 it would be gratitude.

No other tool can get you out of the darkness and into the light faster than an attitude of gratitude.

So be sure you make it a regular part of your ZEN+ practice.

Bye for now


P.S. I cover gratitude and 15 other powerful mindset tools in great detail in the Bronze section of the ZEN+ Home Study Course.

Full details on ==> This Page <==

Right, just for today… My Nutrition boundaries are out of the window as I help Ollie celebrate his birthday.

Can’t wait to sink my teeth into this =)


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